Q: When a bride-to-be is registered at three places, for instance Bed Bath & Beyond, Macy’s and Target and several people want to give a group gift, how should I choose which location to purchase the gift from?
A: Great question! I actually have two answers for ya. The idea here, no matter which option you feel works best, is to celebrate in the happiness of the bride-to-be, rather than hand over a group gift or a signed card with a smile and a handshake. That’s no fun!
#1: If there will be an office Wedding Shower, then I would suggest collecting cash from the givers (keep discreet track of who participates) and purchasing several gifts from either one or all three locations (but that would depend on how much time you have on your lunch break). The more gifts at the Shower, the more fun it is for the couple to open. Oohs and aahs are what you’re going for!
#2: If there will not be an office Wedding Shower, then I feel it would be perfectly fine to give a gift card to one of the stores for the entire amount the group gives, and perhaps have a happy hour or lunch in her honor to celebrate her upcoming marriage.
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Q:My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years now. We’re in love and we’ve talked about getting married, but it’s been months since that talk and he still hasn’t proposed yet. What can I do to help “encourage” him to take the next step and propose? I feel like I’m jumping out of my skin! I want him to DO SOMETHING!!
~Lindsay from Plano, Texas
A:If only you and I could hold hands and “whooosaaah” (a calming chant used in the movie Bad Boys II). Lindsay, what you’re feeling appears to be some impatience mixed with a pinch of anxiety, and that’s certainly not the ideal recipe to encourage your boyfriend to take your next step. Yes, I said it. It makes sense that the logical next step after having the marriage talk with your boyfriend is a proposal, but I caution you to not rush this process. Just because you are ready to be engaged right now doesn’t necessarily mean your boyfriend is ready.
If you both are on the same page (by eventually wanting to be married to each other) and are in a serious, loving, and committed relationship, I highly recommend that you allow his proposal to happen organically, and keep enjoying your relationship. Keep making memories with your #Boyiance (what I call a man that is more than a boyfriend but not exactly a fiance… yet) and keep supporting each other’s dreams and goals.
Don’t Push. Enjoy Your Relationship!
Ask yourself if it’s marriage you’re so eager to have, or if you’re really really super eager to start planning your wedding. The source of your desire for him to take the next step could expose where your priorities are. I’m not one to judge! Your reason is your reason – and weddings are super fun, which is why I plan them!
When you’re feeling this way remember to breathe, very slowly, and try to avoid taking any actions while your emotions and nerves are high. A frustrated comment to your boyfriend could lead to an argument and no one wins in that situation. And pushing him to move things along or dropping a subtle (or not-so-subtle) ultimatum could backfire. I ask you to give it more time, and when he does pop the question, I’ll be happy dancing with you while we’re planning your wedding!
Keeping calm in the eye of your emotional anguish takes skill… now #ThatsSensiblyChic!